(Thinking of Ryan in the same discussion birthed an analogy I'd not considered before, ie, illness, its accompanying distress/stress, is also a 'storm'. We 'weather' it; the outcome is often uncertain; we are at the mercy of qualified - or not - care/assistance-givers. I was reminded of our experience with Phil's sister, Eileen's, protracted 'illness' and the 'weathering' of it. The necessary reliance on/being at the mercy of others loomed large as I recalled dealing with the "money lady."
Did she sign in? etc.